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Wednesday, 21 December 2011

GOOD HAIR;......... Do I have it?

Seasons Greetings to you all. Hope you've been nice as Santa Claus or Father Christmas as he is known here is coming to town........ho ho ho.

I have had my hair back to NATURAL for nearly 2yrs now and it has been an adventure. I have been thinking of the damage to my hair after using relaxers for about 22years and I have seen my hair thinning down from the 'long lush thick mane' that was the envy of other women in the salon when I go to the 'thin uneven scraggly mop' it had become.
I decided to go for it finally after watching 'GOOD HAIR' early last year, had a Big Chop last year after transitioning for about 7months with my hair in locks.
See below

This was how I looked and I felt liberated
My fears of going natural,ranged from fears of how to manage my natural hair as I remembered it as thick,very kinky and hard, combing it was difficult and even getting someone to plait it as a child was difficult as no one liked doing my hair.
I also had fears of styling options as all Naturalistas I knew then either had a low cut or had it in dreads including my sister who had dreads.
The internet has definately been the most valuable source of info for me with people like the Natural Nigerian,Screwy haired girl,Chicoro and many more teaching and encouraging Newbies like me.
I have discovered that all my needs is a lot of TLC and moisture and my hair is not hard and stuborn as I thought and only breaks when dry .I now know the use of Shea butter,EVOO,Coconut oil etc
And for,styling, I sometimes lock,wear an Afro and have even fixed a Weave and right now have kinky braids and my Trick is not having a style on for too long except the Afro.

I also have gotten a lot of compliments and support from friends and family,they asked questions at 1st but right now, my mum,a sister in law,my closest friend and SURPRISE...... my HAIR DRESSER have all gone Natural and husband love it.

I think we are changing and loving ourselves more as original Lagos Babes and I definately have GOOD HAIR.

ps....sorry pics from old BB and not so clear

Sunday, 4 December 2011

Hope you like the new design and colours of my blog page. Just want the Christmas feelings to show


Hi All,

I am looking forward to Christmas,the most wonderful time of the year.
We put up our Christmas tree today,finally as my younger son has been on my neck for the past couple of weeks about the Xmas decorations.

I don't know who loves this Season the most Me or the Children? I guess they inherited their love for Xmas from me,the decorations,the lights,Xmas shopping and Windows...........All the shopping malls, The Palms, City mall and Shoprite Ikeja is opening on the 14th of this month . BLISS

Most Importantly,the story of the Birth that gave me a NEW BIRTH,the Bible Readings,Carol Services and the general GOODWILL TO ALL MEN.
Seasons Greetings All

It is also a time a winding down and plannings of 'NEW BEGINNINGS' More on the winding down and new beginnings in my next post.
As the count down begins,I thank the Lord for good health that we all enjoy right now ,we pray for Peace in our land and Goodwill to all of you.

Wednesday, 23 November 2011

Browsing and Pinging

Hi Everyone,

It has been a while and I can't blame being very busy but I can definately blame my internet broadband provider because on days I have had the inspiration to write the system was down and today is the first in a few weeks that the system is not only good but fast as well.

I wonder what NCC is doing about all these service providers,both internet and phone service providers they take our money and don't provided the services and we don't even get apologies talkless of COMPENSATIONS.

Take for instance, my blackberry plan expired in September and since I was broke and had to wait for hubby to indulge me and renew the service{am married to an Ijebu man ,so, I am Ijebu by marriage and by nature). I was without the bb for a few days and after paying,I was told by the customer services person to remove the battery and restart the phone, which I did. Only to discover that my bb messenger icon had disappeared.

In spite of all my efforts to download bb messenger,and several calls to my phone company-AIRTEL- , they gave me a case number and sent me a SMS stating that the problem has been resolved,BIG LIE. A call to customer service only got me beign told that with the plan I have ,I was not entitled to bbm{why pay for a plan if not for bbm?}

Anyway, I lost my money that month as I was told I could not get it back.
And no more bbm for me, in fact I would have changed my phone company if not for all my business contacts having that number.
Sorry, all my bb contacts,I lost all your pins and no more pinging for me

I now use my other Etisalat to make my calls as they seem more reliable and I can even browse the internet without subscribing to a bb plan.

I think I will get an android or iphone......Which is better?

Wednesday, 2 November 2011

So when will this Rain stop?
The day was so hot this afternoon and then the rains came suddenly catching me and others unaware.

My heart and prayers go to those living on the floodplains and marshlands whose home are flooded right now but I can't help thank God and sing

Thank you for the rain,
Thank you for the latter rain.

Have a Good nite with Sweet Dreams, my peeeps

Sunday, 23 October 2011

Bookshop Dream

One of my Dreams is to own a bookshop.
You see, I love reading as some of you may know and I want to share that love with others as well.

It is not easy getting a good one-stop bookshop in Lagos and Naija as a whole,and my dream is to open one, with thousands of titles and a reading area where we can host literary events,book signing and book clubs. A children's corner with books and decorated with soft toys,a coffee and teashop and Gift shop...... Dreams?

I will also like to have an online shop where you can get any book you want and we can order for you if not in stock just like Amazon or Kalahari. And we will deliver anywhere in Nigeria starting with Lagos.

This dream will soon be a BIG reality as I have started making plans to start a small shop and am talking to some Publishers and Book Suppliers and hopefully will be in full business by early next year. Am so excited and want you to keep me in your prayers.

ps; Am interested in helping any writer to sell, so contact me if you are interested.


Sunday, 16 October 2011

Today, the LOVE of my life and Father of these Lovely boys celebrated the beginning of another year of his life.

This is my/our prayers for you, sweetheart,


Welove you, Omoba Adeyemi Oluwafemi ODUSOTE

ps: Today is also my father-in-law's birthday and though he is late, my birthday greetings to his twin Francis Kehinde Odusote.


Johns Hopkins Update –

This is an extremely good article. Everyone should read it.


Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins:;

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer
cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have
multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients
that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after
treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the
cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable

2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a
person's lifetime.

3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer
cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and
forming tumours.

4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has
nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic,
but also to environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing
diet to eat more adequately and healthy, 4-5 times/day
and by including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing
cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells
in the bone marrow, gastrointestinal tract etc, and can
cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

7.. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars
and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often
reduce tumour size. However prolonged use of
chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumour

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from
chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either
compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb
to various kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to
mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy.
Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer
cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.


a. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc are made
with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute
would be Manuka honey or molasses, but only in very small
amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in
colour Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.

b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the
gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting
off milk and substituting with unsweetened soy milk cancer
cells are being starved.

c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based
diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little other meat,
like chicken. Meat also contains livestock
antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all
harmful, especially to people with cancer.

d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole
grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into
an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked
food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live
enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to
cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance
growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building
healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most
vegetables including be an sprouts) and eat some raw
vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at
temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C)..

e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high
caffeine Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer
fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or
filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap
water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of
digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the
intestines becomes putrefied and leads to more toxic

13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By
refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes
to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the
body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

14. Some supplements build up the immune system
(IP6, Florescence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals,
EFAs etc.) to enable the body’s own killer cells to destroy
cancer cells.. Other supplements like vitamin E are known
to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's
normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or
unneeded cells.

15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit.
A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior
be a survivor. Anger, un-forgiveness and bitterness put
the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to
have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy

16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated
environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to
get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen
therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer

1. No plastic containers in micro.

2. No water bottles in freezer.

3. No plastic wrap in microwave..

Johns Hopkins has recently sent this out in its newsletters. This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Centre as well. Dioxin chemicals cause cancer, especially breast cancer. Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies. Don't freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic. Recently, Dr Edward Fujimoto, Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital , was on a TV program to explain this health hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us. He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using plastic containers. This especially applies to foods that contain fat. He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body. Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or ceramic containers for heating food. You get the same results, only without the dioxin. So such things as TV dinners, instant ramen and soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in something else. Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper. It's just safer to use tempered glass, Corning Ware, etc. He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the foam containers to paper The dioxin problem is one of the reasons.
Please share this with your whole email list.........................
Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Saran, is just as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave. As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food. Cover food with a paper towel instead.

This is an article that should be sent to anyone important in your life.

Friday, 7 October 2011


Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
By Steve Jobs

This is so profound and true and has really got me thinking about my BUCKET LIST and some changes I need to make in my life.

As Steve also said,"If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

It is time for change in my life.

RIP Steve Jobs

Saturday, 24 September 2011

I just want to check in as I have been quite busy at work especially,since I was away for a week. And at home,my brother in law is visiting from the UK and of course, school runs have started,and we are out as early as 6.15am to beat traffic.

Lagos is as busy as ever, and as we all know,there fear of Boko Haram is the beginning of Wisdom. Nepa or is it PHCN has really improved and one of my patient who is a topshot there has reassured me that it will be permanent( IJN).

I have a lot to say but no time right now but will hopefully write some more soon. I will be reviewing some novels soon, so please continue to check in.


Monday, 12 September 2011

Back To Reality

We got back yesterday after a hectic one week at the HOPE youth corp summer camp for preteens and teens. My older son and niece attended for the 1st time and we all had a great time.

We had about 250 children and about 50 counselor and facilitators. Each counselor had about 10 kids who they took care of and we were also divided into 5 Houses depending on the color of t-shirt you are given.
I was the camp doctor and also doubled as a counselor because we were short of volunteers, it was challenging doing double duty but fun as well.

And yours truly got the award for the "The Most Outstanding Female Counselor"
I had the most amazing girls - beautiful inside and out, ranging from 10-15yrs and was a Mother of girls for a week. We got up as early as 5am for devos and morning exercise,classes.mealtimes and watched movies together and had a bonfire nite last date of camp.

Thanking HOPE WORLDWIDE Nigeria

for the priviledge of serving.

Saturday, 3 September 2011



I am off to camp tomorrow and I am looking forward to it.

The camp is actually for preteens and teens and I decided to volunteer as my older son and niece will be going for the first time and as I never went to camp as a child the teen in me is out.

So, I will be M.I.A for a week and will gist you when I get back

Have a great week

Wednesday, 31 August 2011

Small World

Remenber Titilayo,

The lady that was killed in cold blood by her husband check her story in my post, Abuse of a woman? Why.
I found out that I know her family, her dad and her siblings are my patients and she actually had her daughter in the hospital where I work.........SMALL WORLD.

Her family is so nice and did not know the extent of the abuse because she covered it up from them, maybe , she was ashamed but to think her story could have been different if she only listened to her dad remained in her father's house instead of returning to him.

I am glad that he is in custody and I hope she gets JUSTICE. And her daughter will not have to grow up with the monster Kolade(her husband) had become

Small World

Remenber Titilayo,

The lady that was killed in cold blood by her husband check her story in my post, Abuse of a woman? Why.
I found out that I know her family, her dad and her siblings are my patients and she actually had her daughter in the hospital where I work.........SMALL WORLD.

Her family is so nice and did not know the extent of the abuse because she covered it up from them, maybe , she was ashamed but to think her story could have been different if she only listened to her dad remained in her father's house instead of returning to him.

I am glad that he is in custody and I hope she gets JUSTICE. And her daughter will not have to grow up with the monster Kolade(her husband) had become

Friday, 26 August 2011

I Am Back

Hi Everyone,

I am BACK!

My laptop is alive and kicking and it only caused me an ARM to fix. And boy am I so happy to be back.
Why is it that when you don't have access to your blog you have loads to say and when you do have access, all the words disappear? Anyway sha, I have missed you all, my Followers, Readers and those I Follow.


The UN building in Abuja was bombed this morning as you all must have heard by now, I am grateful to God for sparing the life of a family friend, whose office was next to the reception but he step out to eat and was still at the restaurant when the incident occured BUT my heart goes out to the Families and Friends of those who lost their lives. I don't understand what Boko Haram sect is fighting for or who they are after but I thought that the month of Ramadan is supposed to be a month of Mercy and Forgiveness, I don't know how they expect forgiveness and mercy from GOD.

I hope our Leaders will do something fast and stop this talk about amnesty, because these people are terrorists and should be treated as such.


Saturday, 13 August 2011

New Loook

Just decided to change the look of my blog again.

I think this is more uplifting and colourful, reminds me of a SUNNY day and a field of Tulips.

Here is hoping you have a great day with the sun shining on your face.

Here is a site that I have found very useful and it will be useful to parents and teachers alike. Check out the link below

benefits of children's ministry
68 Benefits of Children's Ministry


Sunday, 7 August 2011


Tunmise's birthday party has come and gone and we had so much fun. But I cannot post the photos as promised.


Because after the party and as I tried getting online, Water pour on my laptop and even though I rushed to rescue by drying quickly,my faithful friend(laptop) still drowned and has been suffering from Water Intoxication since then.

I tried logging on but it is not responding, I've had to cvall the engineer to come check it and am still waiting for him to come.
I hope it will not cost me an arm and a leg to repair or worse need a new one as I am sobroke right now.....we just had a party and I have spent all my money.
Most importantly, I hope I won't lose all my business documents, my ebooks and other things on my system.

I am writing this from the desktop in my husband's office but it is not the same as using my laptop. It is so funny, when you are use to something itb feels strange and difficult to use the same thing that belongs to some one else.

I hope I get back my laptop soon as I seem to have a lot I want to write

Saturday, 30 July 2011

I just wanted to say Hi

I just wanted to say 'HI'

It has been a busy week for me as we are preparing for Tunmise's birthday party tomorrow as he clocked 10 this past week.

The canopies and chairs are set and the caterers are downstairs starting the cooking and the party favours are packed.

Hope we have a nice time tomorrow and I will post photos soon.

Good Night

Saturday, 23 July 2011


The traffic in Lagos is probably the worst thing about living in this city.........after power failure.

I am ranting right now, so bear with me.

I went for a dear friend and big sister's birthday party today and I spent over 4hours on the road going and coming and the most annoying thing was that the roads were not so bad, yes, there were some pot holes but that was not the cause but those stupid contraptions called DANFOS

It is about time those things are banned from Lagos roads and the drivers and conductors chased from Lagos as well. They stop everywhere to pick up and drop passengers, they face oncoming traffic and cause terrible hold ups,the Police, LASTMA etc have lost control and anarchy reigns.

The government should phase out these buses and gradually replace them with the BRT buses by not registering any more Danfos because I truly believe that no amount of training and cautioning can change these drivers.

Anyway, I am just ranting and don't really expect a change and I can only live in Lagos or leave it and since I have no intention of leaving, I have to live with

ps: I only spent 1hour at the party.

Wednesday, 13 July 2011

Long Time

I have missed the internet these past few days and surprisingly missed blogging too, but like we all know, life can be busy and life caught up with me these past weeks.

We've had a death and burial of an aunt-in-law and trust me, it was as stressful as it can be.
It was one of the biggest events I have ever been a part of, starting on a Tuesday with a service of songs and ending on a Saturday with an Outing/Thanksgiving Service......Talk about STRESS.

Then came down the RAINS and the FLOODS,and like I said in my earlier post,the rains are just beginning and we should expect more.
Loss of Lives and Property followed the rains on Sunday, my street was flooded along the lower parts and rain actually entered a couple of houses down from mine. And as my office is located in a reclaimed area, there was a lot of casualties among the staff members who live around the hospital.
I really hope the government will do something about it.

I have also had some serious cases at the clinic recently,one of the reasons I opted for general practice is because I will not have to manage patients with serious trauma,tumors and cancers.
But I have had to see a young pregnant lady with facial fractures due to a road traffic accident and yes, she was not wearing a seat belt. She lost all her front teeth as well and I had to refer her to the teaching hospital and she is doing well right now.
I have also had to refer a 19yrs old boy with a growth in his jaws which I suspect to be a Cancer. I have felt sad and emotional about his case and have been praying for him.

Please Keep him in your PRAYERS and I will keep you posted.

Good News... Tunmise will be 10yrs old this month and that is joyful and a cause for Celebration.

Wednesday, 29 June 2011

Abuse of A Woman, Why?

Just read about the story of this lady, Titilayo(in photo with husband), a staff of Skye bank plc who was killed by her husband, Kolade Arowolo after being married for 2yrs.

I just wondered what went wrong that could turn him into a monster that stabbed a woman he toasted,probably claims he loves,makes love to and sleeps with, the mother of is daughter(in photo below).

This is so Sad, I wish she had gotten out of the abusive relationship a long time ago because am sure the abuse started even before they got married.

The 1st autopsy I saw as a medical student was of a lady who was strangled by her husband, I will never forget looking down on her on that slab,she just set her hair and had her toenail painted and she was in her twenties. I have never forgotten and will never forget as it made an impression on me,it was not a pretty sight.

If you are in an ABUSIVE relationship, GET OUT NOW, this might be you we will talk about next.

Rest in Peace Titi

Saturday, 25 June 2011


The rains have come to Lagos big time.

This past week has seen downpours and thunderstorms of great proportions and along with it the floods and traffic holdups.
As much as I love the rains......cosy weather especially when you don't have to go out and can curl in bed with a good book, my heart goes out to those affected by the floods.

We need to learn about not putting our trash in the drain as is the norm in some areas, the natural drainage channels are actually filled with trash and people build and live here..check out Ogudu and Oworo areas in Lagos. As more people flood into Lagos, more and more of the canals and marshes are blocked because of the need for more accommodation and the situations keeps getting worse.

The government is trying their bit but we as residents of this great city need to do more by

1.Keep the drains free by not dumping your refuse.

2.Pay your refuse bill so that the PSP collector can pick it up and don't use the kole-kole who in turn drop your refuse in the drains.

3. Don't build on the canals and drainage channels.

4. Try not to rent houses built on canals....Trust me, it is not worth it.

Thursday, 16 June 2011

Bag MeMe

I decided to do the bag tag as I seem not to have what to write today and I want to write something.

I carry different bags and change them weekly. My bags come from the high street and I don't know their designers.
My bag of the week is the Red one and it was a gift from my sister.


1. Books I am reading currently; Secure in Heart by Robin Weidner and Half of a Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Adichie.

2.FM perfume catalogues I carry this around in case I get a customer.

3.Make up Purse for my nic-nacs, chewing gum,sweets,earrings,pens,lip gloss etc so that they will not get lost in my bag.

4.IDs are below the make up purse,my license,tax clearance,club card and library card

5.Below these are my note book,day planner and address book.

6. Tissues in case I need it.

7.Phones,my blackberry case as pics were taken with the BB and my old and reliable motorola phone.

8.My wallet for cash and bank cards.

9.Above is my glasses case.Can't read or work without them
10. Next is my keys, 2 sets- home and office and my rose pen which I got at my sisters wedding.

Thursday, 9 June 2011


Driving down Alfred Rewane road, Ikoyi yesterday morning, I saw these group of people in front of the MTN head office protesting and it got me wondering.
Apparently, they are owing this company,PNN about N900 million for work done and MTN have refused to pay despite being ordered by the Court of Arbitration to pay. This company can't pay their staff and creditors, so, resorted to this protest.

Why do big organizations do things, you get a contract and agree to be paid after delivery and for some reasons best known to them they refuse to pay up not caring about the time,effort and resources spent and in some cases,(such as this) disobey court orders.

Usually, such organizations make huge profits which are remitted abroad as they are not on our stock exchange.
I think our government should do something about this as MTN should not be about providing jobs for a few Nigerian but also about reinvesting in our economy by supporting SMEs and not KILLING them.

Saturday, 4 June 2011

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Saturday, 28 May 2011

Beauty For Ashes

Just started a new year of married life.

May 24th 1997, seems just like yesterday and I can remember all the preceding events.
  Going to the NYSC camp but not reporting at the Umuahia Medical Center for my pry assingment because I was not redeployed back to Lagos and since I had wedding to plan ...........home I went.

I got to stay at home with my mum who just retired as a banker and we got to bond. We built a relationship not just as mother/daughter but as friends as we went around planning my wedding..........Thanks mum.

The 1st few years without the babies were the best, lots of loving and friendship and I won't trade those years for anything, as, we built a solid foundation that still binds today.

We lost a baby, Oluwanifise but God in his infinite mercies blessed us with Oluwatunmise and Oluwabamise.

Challenges have come but we've weathered them all.

I have asked myself,' why did I marry this man'?  Especially when he hurts me or takes me granted.
 He is lazy about housework and expects me to do everything for him, he can be unkind and uncaring, he can also be thoughtless and keeps malice like a (he has 3 older sisters)
When I think ,'enough is enough'
He does that nice, thoughtful thing that brings a tear to the eye.
He is supportive of me in whatever I do or want to do and he does not remind me of my failures, even when it cost us a lot of money.
He stands up for me in his family and will never pull me down.

And, 'I LOVE Yemi TO BITS', even when I don't tell him enough.
I am working on this marriage and God is working with me and he has given me

Beauty For Ashes
The Garment Of Praise For The Spirit Of Heaviness

ps; I was given 6 months extension of NYSC but did not mind.
pss: wrote this on the 24th but just posted it. And  decided to change my pic and show my new look ,hope you like.

Sunday, 22 May 2011


 Hello my friends,

 Long time no blogs.
Sorry oh but I have been quite busy and could only use the internet only at night and NEPA or is it PHCN has decided that we don't deserve power supply in my neighbourhood.

 So, how have you been?
 I have been fine,but patient inflow has been slow at work, so we've had to send out reminders, and hopefully more patients will come in next month.

 The boys also resumed school and hence, back to school runs and early mornings but also early starts at the clinic and quiet times before others come in.
 I also discovered a stack of Christian romance novels leftover by my sister when she moved, I am enjoying reading them and it is helping me in my  faith.Never knew they were so interesting, so sweet and inspiring

What are you reading right now? Hope it is interesting?
I have to go now and hope to blog soon.

Sunday, 1 May 2011

Men in My Life

How are you my people?

Why am I talking about the man, sorry, men in my life? Well, this is May and I got married in May and I just got in from the traditional marriage of a dear friend.So am feeling the love in the air

My dad is my 1st love and he showed me what love is and what to expect from a man. I learned about God's agape love at his feet and with  him I truly feel LOVED.

My husband,lover,friend, my sweetheart as I call him is the 1st MAN of my life.  We've been together 16years and married for 14years this month, we are best friends and he is the most important after God in my life. Loving him gives me peace and he is my all and all I ever hope to have, the father of my children

       Now, I have 4 other men seeking for my attention, I met them seperately and at different times, they are all married, 2 of them are younger than me and 2 of them older than me.
 I met all of them in the course of my work(they were all my patients). 
All of them want a relationship or friendship with me. 
 I have been nice with my NO and I have been stern and short of being harsh  with my No but amazingly, they all are not taking no but keeps coming back. 
Why can't they take No for an answer?
 It is as if they planned it and they agreed to disturb my life. What am I doing wrong? 
I have spoken to them about God and his plans for marriage, I have told them how much I love my husband and even introduced 2 of them to him thinking this might discourage them(it has not). 
All I hear is how much they love me and how it is me or wah for this love
What is up with these men? They all seem happily married and I actually know 2 of the wives.

I tell Yemi about this men but he laughs it off ( he trust me not to cheat on him) but my people, advise me, 
Maybe, it is because they have good jobs and are well to do, so they think they can get any woman BUT why ME?   4  very different men..... ...abaah:
These men in my life are a harassment and since I don't own the hospital, I can't bar them from coming there.
 I AM HAPPILY MARRIED.....Till death do us part, he is mine and I am completely his and have no intention of being unfaithful to my vows and he has given me a happy life and is a great provider.

What should I do? Tell me how to say NO and be heard

Sunday, 24 April 2011

Easter Greetings

Up From The Grave He AROSE..........
With a mighty triumph o'er his foes.
He arose a VICTOR from the dark domain

              Happy Easter, my people and may the power that raised Jesus from the dead bring all the good that is dead in our Nation and in our lives back to life, It is also a time for new beginnings and may he that started the new Covenant with man bring the new beginning to our lives and nation.

      And as we go again to chose new state lawmakers and governors,,may we have the heart to chose leaders for  a new Nation and continue to pray that God will give us the peace that passes all understanding in our Nation and may the resurrected Christ give succour to all those that lost loved ones and properties in the violence in the Northern part of this great Nation.


Wednesday, 13 April 2011

I have been a bit bored these past few days as it seems all everyone is talking about is politics.
The tvs, radios and newspapers are filled with political accusations and counter accusations and if you win, the election is free and fair. But if you lose, the winning party rigged in their candidate.

 Why can we lose or win GRACIOUSLY?

The electorate is not stupid as the politicians think and most of us knows what we want and will not be told what to do by anybody. So please accept our decisions

 Anyway, enough said and I hope I am not boring you? As i don't have much to say.

Just go out and VOTE come Saturday or you have no right to complain about whoever is elected.

Tuesday, 5 April 2011

New Month, New Look

With all the election -mania going on and since I decided not to vote last Saturday, I spent the day removing the locs I have had for the past 8months.
 I have always had my hair relaxed since I was 15yrs old and was naturally blessed with long and full thick hair that did not need any extensions or weaves. All through my university days friends and strangers alike will touch and pull my hair to check if it is really mine or a weave-on and I was the pride of my hair stylist.

 Alas, the babies came, my hormones went haywire and suddenly my hair started thinning, it remained long but lost the thickness so much,  that I resort to weave ons and extensions.

 Thinning continued and dependence on weaves became the norm and my own hair only appeared for only a couple of weeks in 3 months to be retouched and allowed to grow a bit before the next set of weave ons.
My hair was in such a bad condition (Sad to say) that I decided to stop relaxing and return to the natural state with the hope that it regrow healthier, my last retouch was in May2010.
  I had my hair locked with extensions in July and due to the compliments I received, I was going to keep locking for 2yrs at least. But on removing the locs  and seeing my hair, it was thick and healthy again but still had the relaxed ends so I had a 'big chop' this morning and now sport an Afro, which my husband seems to like and my colleagues in the hospital has whaoed. I was told that I look younger and the matron  is thinking so stopping relaxers when she saw my hair.
As much as am tempted to remain like this(with the Afro), I most likely will re-loc as that is more manageable for my life at the moment as my natural is thick and kinky but, it sure feels GOOD to have my thick healthy hair back. And no more relaxers for me in a very long while.

Wednesday, 30 March 2011

Thanks all and my voice is back but coughing persist.

   I have also been reading a lot. Just bought some new books written by Nigerian Sisters and am enjoying it,it is so amazing how talented we are and  we just don't know it and I wonder how we can get more awareness to Nigerians to read more.Any IDEAS?

 .As much as I love to read, it is usually cheaper to buy foreign authors than Nigerian authors and their books are also widely available than those by Nigerians. I had to travel all the way to Victoria Island to buy Myne Whitman's A Heart To Mend and some other books by Nigerian Authors at Silverbird lifestyle bookshop and Naija Sistas bookshop as we have only a few bookshops on the mainland where I live that stock good books( not pirated copies) I also discovered that the was a lot of difference in pricing( as much as 50%).
I also found it cheaper to buy books when I travel out of the country.

    I have also discover online bookshops, Kalahari, Debonair and Walahi which is the best by far as their prices are very reasonable and delivery  is within 48 hours in Lagos. I actually bought 4  books including delivery  for N4,000.00( amazing as I actually bought a book for N3,000 at a bookshop in V/I).

    I will continue to buy foreign authors as the romance novels I love so much is so abundant and cheap in the market that I can afford to buy as much as 10 books a month if not more but I will also be patriotic and even if I have to save up to buy my Naija sisters books especially the romance genre as these stories I can related with as per attitudes,culture and environment and am looking forward to reading more ...... Just finished AHTM and Fools Rush In by Bisi Abejo and reading Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Adichie .

On a personal note, I hope to have a bookshop one day with a reading section where you can seat and read and also have literary events and I also think quite frankly that a bookshop is good business considering the cost of books in Nigeria. I think Nigerian publishers should find ways of promoting events to encourage reading as the more we read the more they will sell and the cheaper books will become.

What do you think can be done to get us to read more and is there a way to buy books cheaper?
Who do you enjoy reading and why?
Post your comments and let me know.

Monday, 21 March 2011


How have you been and how are you?

I have been quite busy at work and when you include my primary job of wife and mummy,     huumh.........some will understand the weariness that my body feels.

  Early mornings as we leave home as early as 6.15am, so as to beat traffic and make it for older son's 7am extra lessons before school starts and pick up after work and going  or is it flowing with traffic to get home, to cook dinner and help out with home work, bedtime comes for the boys and the OLDEST boy wants my attention and I have to listen to how his day went and give my encouragements.

Why is it that a woman is expected to give so much and get so little in return.........?
 Imagine this,I have picked up a chest infection this past few days,which despite, antibiotics seems to be getting worse and I have now totally lost my voice for the past 2days but I was still expected to go the PTA meeting in the boys school (note he has never been to one in the past5yrs), travel down to Agbowa, Ikorodu for the burial of a neighbor who was more like a mother to me.... she was the one that gives my boys their baths the first few weeks of life.
 Come Sunday after I have been up for hours, he wakes up at about 8.30am,shower and eats breakfast and then starts going on and on about how we will make him late for service at 9.30am. After service ,he did not allow me fellowship as he has a meeting and we need to go and then keeps me waiting in the car while he fellowships with his friends. And when I complain all I get is MA BINU. No helping hand from him and dinner still had to be made and it was plain Rice and Stew not the Jollof or Fried Rice he prefers.......sebi am not feeling well.

What a life, I need a holiday right now. A total break away from family and the familiar to an exotic location  (Banjul sounds nice) where I can read all my unfinished books without a knock on the door,eat what I want when I want it.....a la carte without entering the kitchen, gist well into the night with my girlfriend(who comes with me), shop till I drop and get all the massages and spa treatment a girl wants...BLISS.

DREAMS, you say!

Well I can dream can't I?  Who knows just maybe.

 But just dreaming and writing makes me feel better already and I will close early today barring any late patient with toothache and get into bed with a good book, boys will spend the night with my parents and he can drink garri and suya for a change and I get some Me time
psss..... I can,t talk anyway as my voice decided to go on that vacation without me.


Wednesday, 9 March 2011

Faith Or Foolishness?

What a week it has been so far and I wonder what the rest the week will bring.

Monday morning brought the news of the death of a cousin, she was a single mother of 3 and I heard she was 8months pregnant. I saw her last about 5months ago and she did not tell me she was pregnant as she knew I would not approve........My disapproval stems from the fact that she was hypertensive and was pre-eclamptic in her last 2 pregnancies and she had an emergency CS the last confinement and the baby has issues that continues to affect her till today.

  You know, in spite of her health issues, she refused to attend ante-natal clinics until she had  a heart attack and passed on to the Lord., should she not have been more careful about taking care of herself ,for the sake of her children if not for herself?  Is this FAITH or FOOLISHNESS?

  Driving home after picking up the children last evening, I saw a young man on the express road in his pool of blood having just been crushed by a trailer..dead by the time I got there, even though it happened a few minute earlier. His basket of bottled water scattered around him .......street trading on the highway in spite of its attendant risk  FAITH or FOOLISHNESS.

   Lagos is full of foolishness in the name of survival, is it the okada riders on the highway at highspeed even though they've been banned from the highways or riding without helmets which is also illegal? Or is it the market on the highway causing  the bottle necks in traffic and hazard to drivers or is it those that run across the highway under a pedestrian bridge, the list is endless.
  The laws are there to protect the citizens but are being flouted daily, there are fines for those who are caught but in a mega-city like Lagos "water pass garri". I feel sorry at times for the traffic wardens and Lastma officials, because it is difficult when the majority breaks the law.

Who loses when someone dies like this? The dead person or those left behind? What do you think?

For me, I have lost a dear sister, full of life and smiles maybe troublesome but loving and I now have to look out for her children as she was the breadwinner and caregiver.

 Rest in Peace Bolatito and  that unknown man on the road.


Thursday, 3 March 2011


Today is my baby's birthday, he is seven today and growing so fast that I can catch him no matter how fast I run.
 To think back to the boy that was in such a hurry to come after 35weeks of stressful pregnancy and weight loss due to constant nausea and vomiting. I saw my baby the next day after an emergency CS due to Placenta Previa and just fell in love with this tiny bag of bones who we named Oluwabamise because The Almighty God just saved my life and made me a mumy again.

 Bamise has always been restless and on the move since day one of life and wanting to do or outdo his big bro in everything and always coming to report to mommy(or even report mummy to daddy) if need be.

Today I celebrate a boy that has given me so much JOY that it is amazing, to think that I was scare when I got pregnant that I would not have the capacity to love him like I love his brother.....Silly ME.(I now understand God's Agape love and how big my heart can grow).

Mummy and Daddy  and Big Bro loves you with all our hearts and we pray that you grow up to be a man of God like David 'a man after God's own heart', A star that shine brightly and draw men onto our Lord and we declare that,'You shall live and not die but live to declare the goodness of GOD in the land of the living'
 Happy birthday Francis Oluwabamise Odusote

Saturday, 26 February 2011


All to Jesus I surrender
All to him I freely give........hmmm

I wonder when you sing this song, do you think about this words as Christian or do you just sing? Lately the word has been jumping at me and have me thinking a lot about my walk with God.
God is my Saviour and  Lord and I can truly call him Lord of my life,decisions,desires.dreams etc, I have to take captive every thought and make them captive to Christ. It takes more than lip service to surrender my marriage,my sons future, my plans and my dreams to God and let him take control.

You know as women we like to be in charge and in control and want to be heard in our family at least if not in our society and it take a lot to let go of the control especially when we are not sure where the driver is taking us to. Trusting God is my security and I need to remain still and know that he is God.

So are YOU surrendered?
In the hustle and bustle of life you certainly need to throw the weight of life off and take up his light yoke and enter the warm embrace of our Lord and when next you sing you can really mean it

All to thee my Blessed Saviour, I Surender ALL


Friday, 25 February 2011

welcome to a new me

Welcome to my world and I will also say to a new ME.

This is my year of trying new things.....blogging(I have always wanted to write), I also started a new business, selling make up and perfurms. I also intend to build up my teaching ministry in church  and facilitate more health classes.
I  am so excited as I love new beginnings and this is so new to me and can't wait to share with you my Passions,Dreams and Life.